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Asking ‘what can you do’ to someone who is bereaved...

Southampton Hospital Charity was proud to support national dying matters awareness week on 8-14 May.
This year’s theme was 'What Can You Do?'
It aimed to get people more active in planning for dying and death and helping support those who may need it in times of grief and bereavement, be they friends, family or in your wider community.
During the week we held two events for our staff. One was about the importance of having a will, and the other was a presentation by Paul Capper funeral directors on what their role is as a funeral director.
Helpful tips to talk to someone who is bereaved:
  • Mention their bereavement the first time you see someone. Many people are so uncomfortable talking about your loss they say nothing.
  • Practical offers can be more helpful than 'is there anything I can do?' For example, providing meals, helping with household chores or offering to look after children can be invaluable.
  • Go the extra mile to keep in regular contact and make a special effort to check in with people in the weeks and months after the funeral, as these can be some of the most difficult and loneliest times.
  • Be patient and try to resist the urge to fill every silence.
  • Do talk about and mention the person who has died - unless whoever has been bereaved has said that they don’t feel ready to talk about them.
  • Remember that certain times of the year such as birthdays, anniversaries of a death, Christmas and other holiday times and New Year may be especially difficult. Try to remember these times and send a card or drop people a line.
  • Phone people and invite them to join in social activities. Be understanding if they don’t want to join you, but continue to offer as at some stage they may be really grateful that you asked.

Our next event

Every September local solicitors give up their time in exchange for a donation to the charity.
Please think about writing or updating your will this September - Once you’ve looked after your family and friends please consider remembering Southampton Hospital Charity in your will. You don’t have to be wealthy to leave a worthwhile gift.
Any gift, no matter the size, is precious to Southampton Hospital Charity - it really will make a difference.
Find out more about participating solicitors here.

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